03.09.10
Shannon Garrity, PsyD, LP
You have admitted you want a relationship, which is an important first step. As you progress in finding your *perfect* partner, consider the process it took to even admit or realize you want a relationship. We have mastered the art of skipping over the tough, ambiguous parts of life now we are learning to navigate the unknown, vulnerable, exhilarating process of life. Consider the guide below as you put yourself out into the dating world (a relational parallel for de-linking sex and drugs):
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02.12.10
Dr. Weston Edwards
As a person starts to address sexually compulsive behaviors, they sooner or later start the process of moving toward meeting others including dating and eventually courtship. The suggestions below aren’t the how-to-date suggestions. For those tips, I refer you to other resources (Dating for Dummies). Instead, I want to focus on the bigger question of how does dating fit into your recovery process. The 8 questions are designed to help frame the desire to date as progress, and a tool for your ongoing recovery. While perfection isn’t required (or possible), addressing these concerns will increase your chance of positive experiences.
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01.10.10
Dr. Weston Edwards – part 11 of a series.
Interrupting the acting-out cycle requires awareness of the payoffs for online sexual behavior. This is essentially answering the question, Why go online? While the reasons for engaging in online sex may vary, it is important for you to uncover some of the reasons and payoffs that are important to you. It is our opinion that ALL behavior is goal focused. Your online behavior is seeking some type of payoff.
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01.06.10
Dr. Weston Edwards
Recent discussions have keenly reminded me of the tremendous affects of abuse on sexual behavior, mental health, and chemical dependency recovery. I refer the reader to other entries in the blog regarding extended conversations about types of abuse. Here I simply want to acknowledge the big three: sexual, physical and emotional. While these are helpful labels, they are far from black and white. I also think of abuse in terms of overt (recognizable) and covert (hidden).
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